I've noticed that when someone asks how you are, the answer is often "Busy" or some related variant.
When did being busy become the right answer to that question?
We live at a time when work dominates life - it defines who we are, our worth, what we think about, what we think matters. And we are all so busy that, even if we enjoy what we do or think it is important, we often make massive sacrifices in order to do that work.
In this week's show I look at what you can do to cut back on the busy, including what you'll need to let go of in order to do so without guilt.
I'd love to hear your experiences and suggestions too!
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Everyone’s got an opinion about what you’re doing. Of course, their opinion often doesn’t matter and more often shouldn’t matter but that doesn’t mean you’re always able to shrug it off when people pass comment on your plans.
In today’s show I share some of the more common comments I’ve heard whenever I’ve shaken up my life a little (or a lot) and how to respond. Of course there are people who have valuable insights and feedback that you can listen to…you just don’t need to take on board all the comments you’re going to receive.
In the show I mention The Work of Byron Katie. You can check out http://thework.com/sites/thework/downloads/worksheets/JudgeYourNeighbor_Worksheet.pdf. I highly recommend this approach if you want to care less (or not at all) about what other people may think of your decisions.
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This is a tough one for me. I've always struggled with the concept of "Financial Abundance". I believe it's true that what you put out there in to the world in your beliefs comes back to you in your reality. But I've always had a hard time believing that will be true for me when it comes to money. I've believed it isn't all about working harder. But, at the same time, I've always worked very hard...just in case!
Recently I had a breakthrough and found a way to take money off the table so that I could think more creatively about what we really want as a family, the work I really want to do and how we can be "successful" on our own terms.
Finance isn't in my 5 pointed Pentagram model I shared with you last week. And there's a good reason. Money can't be part of your thinking, upfront and central, when you're looking to work in a way that doesn't feel like hard work. You have to find a way to make it a non-issue...even if you, like me, can't quite convince yourself that the universe will provide.
That's what I'm talking about in today's podcast.
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I’m so excited about today’s podcast. The ideas I talk about today have been brewing for weeks!
I would go so far as to say that I’ve never met anyone working in business or the public sector who feels fully integrated in their work. By which I mean, there’s always quite a lot that they are tolerating about the way they work and the sacrifices they’re making. Often they have come to terms with those sacrifices in some way seeing it as a price they have to pay as part of having a job, especially if it’s a job they feel is important.
But is it necessary? More importantly, are the things we tolerate about work and the way we work actually inhibiting our ability to make a difference? Could we construct a way to work that doesn’t require making such sacrifices? And, does there come a time in life where you start saying “I don’t want to make those sacrifices anymore?”
In today’s show I explain the term “Unwork” - an term I've coined to describe work where there is little if any distinction between work and non-work in our lives. There’s no reason why you need to channel a special “work-you” and then switch that off as you switch on the “real you” in the rest of your life. In fact, when you stop making the distinction you are able to bring more of yourself to every aspect of life and therefore be of MORE value in your professional contribution than you are able to be today.
I also run through the 5 criteria that make up my “Unwork Pentagram” - a down and dirty tool you can use to check-in with how integrated your life, your self and your work are. It should help you spot which areas might benefit from your attention. You probably won’t be surprised if you’ve been feeling out of sync with your work for a while that something is missing. And this tool will help you, in a blunt way, work out why that might be.
In future shows we’ll look in more depth at the model and dive in to the 5 criteria, plus I will talk more about unwork, my unwork journey and the stages you’ll go through as you start questioning everything we’ve taken for granted about work in the Industrial Age. I can’t wait!!
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Happy New Year!
Is this the year when you decide enough is enough? You still want to make a difference - you haven't given up on your ambitions. But maybe you can't do it in your current role or in your current organisation. Maybe there's another way that doesn't entail so much sacrifice but does get stuff done!
This week I've revived my interview with Sally McCutchion, one of the first I did for this show and one of my favourites.
What does it feel like to walk away from the security of a management job in a big company to start your own business, when you don't know what business you want to start? How does it feel when you start breaking unwritten "cultural laws" because of the way you've chosen to work, the philosophy that guides your life and the decisions you make about how you live?
In this interview with Sally McCutchion, one of the UK's only Holacracy facilitators, we hear what her experience has been of all of this. Whether you're curious about alternatives to the hierarchical structure or whether you're asking yourself deeper questions about how you live and what's authentic to you, there's lots to inspire you in this interview.
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I must admit that I was pretty desperate for the Christmas Holidays. 2017 has been a year of big life changing decisions and no small amount of overwhelm!
So it was with that in mind that I thought I would re-share my interview with actress and playwright, Leandra Ashton. This was the first interview I did for the show in 2016 and I still think it was one of the ones that made the biggest difference to me personally.
I hope at this time of year, when maybe you have a little time to think and reflect, you will find this as inspiring as I did.
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There's a theory - a very established one - that people are either "away from" motivated or "towards" motivated.
You're either someone who typically moves away from pain or towards a goal or vision.
This has always been problematic to me, especially as so many people appear to be "away from" which makes them feel inadequate compared with the aspirational "towards" people.
Not only that but you may feel you need A LOT of pain in order to move forward so you create discomfort as a motivation - fear, anger, indignation. It's not a fun way to live but it seems to work.
But what if the negatives that happen to us that make us feel so uncomfortable that we have to move away from them aren't what they seem?
What if what's really happening is that the Universe is trying to tell us something, something we keep ignoring whilst manifesting the discomfort we're feeling, until we manifest enough discomfort to take action?
That's today's podcast!
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This week's podcast is a topic very close to my heart - education.
With a child who is currently home educated I've become more and more interested in how children actually learn and what they learn from different forms of education.
Kerry McDonald is my guest and is well positioned to explore education, and how education may need to change to address the future needs of business (and our world!).
Kerry is a mom of four unschooled children, a writer for Natural Mother Magazine and a self-directed learning advocate who is a Board member at the non-profit Alliance for Self-Directed Education. She has a Master's degree in education policy from Harvard University and is an education writer for several national media outlets. Her writing has appeared in Forbes, NPR, and Education Next among others.
She lives in Cambridge, Massachusetts and writes at Whole Family Learning. You can follow her on Facebook and Twitter (@kerry_edu).
The books she mentions in the interview are Now You See It, by Cathy Davidson, and Wounded by School, by Kirsten Olson.
Here is the blog link where you can find her book recommendations if you're interested in learning more about home education and self-directed learning - http://www.wholefamilylearning.com/2017/09/letter-to-prospective-homeschooling.html
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A few weeks ago I gave a presentation at Tramshed Tech in Cardiff, one of the new breed of co-working spaces popping up all over the world.
These facilities are more than just places to park yourself when you need a desk. They cater for the broader needs of entrepreneurs - the need to connect, to co-create, to partner, to be inspired and have a place they can call home.
Iain has had a long and varied career and taken many zig-zags in his professional life, sometimes sacrificing the safety and security of big corporate to indulge his curious, wanderlust side, and other times seeking the opportunities that big business provides.
In this wide-ranging interview we talk about co-working, traveling, big business versus start-up and generally how to find a sense of peace with your career choices.
You can find out more about Tramshed Tech at www.tramshedtech.co.uk.
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This week I found myself head in hands bawling my eyes out in a hotel lobby with my two business besties.
Change is emotional, not logical, as I'm always saying, But despite the fact I know so much about the process of change, I was takenn by surprise by the huge feelings of overwhelm and confusion I was experiencing about the changes I'm making in my life and work.
So I used the opportunity, once we'd mopped up the puddle, to think about that Belly of the Whale stage in change and how to both recognise you're in it...and get out.
If you know anyone else who's in this place right now forward them the link to the podcast. It might just help!
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